Meatballs and Mahyem - Planning The Ultimate Friggin’ Italian Wedding
Meatballs and Mahyem - Planning The Ultimate Friggin’ Italian Wedding
Wedding Sites and Services Magazine
The column that follows is also published in the current edition (winter 2011) of Weddings Sites and Services magazine (page 142 and 143).
If you are a fan of wedding reality TV shows, then surely you’ve been tuning in on Monday evenings to “My Big Friggin’ Wedding” on Vh1. If so, you’ve seen my bride Megin and I and all of our crazy daily adventures in planning the “Ultimate New Jersey Italian Wedding.” If you are reading this magazine, there’s a good chance you’re planning a wedding yourself. You're seeking helpful tips and ideas. Hopefully, I can shed a little light on the subject. The show in many ways offers an entertaining tutorial on what to do—and what not to do in planning a wedding.
The first thing I would say is stay true. Stay true to who you are and what you want for your big day. Don’t let outside distractions and opinions interfere with your ideas. It only complicates things. Plus, people still have other stuff going on in their daily lives besides just planning their wedding. Trying to find the time to sit down, talk and tackle all the tasks at hand is a challenge to say the least. With that in mind, allowing the opinions of others to influence your choices just adds additional unneeded stress.
Remember this though, people will have LOTS of opinions—especially members of large, Italian families. My advice? Hear everyone out and make them feel like you are taking their thoughts and ideas into consideration—even if you really aren’t. Debating with them or trying to convince them of your position is simply a waste of energy.
Secondly, be sure and prioritize because if you don’t you will drive yourself insane. As I said, you can’t neglect your regular lives during the planning process. Consider what we had going on in the past six months in addition to planning our wedding: Megin and I were raising our six-year old who just started first grade. Megin’s father was preparing for major hip surgery. We were moving into a new house (without the help of moving men). Megin was pregnant—oh and we were also building up our new meatball business. And, we were followed around every day by a camera crew!